Asperger’s Syndrome is Only a Diagnosis- Teddy Frost
My mother feels the duty to tell every medical professional and friend I have that I have Asperger’s Syndrome. If it isn’t bad enough I actually have the disorder but she has to announce it to people at every turn.
I am sure that other Aspies can relate to this. At times we don’t want to tell strangers that we have Asperger’s. In fact there are times I like to maybe give the illusion that I am somewhat normal.
It is pretty hard to do though when your mother announces to the whole doctors office that her child has Asperger’s Syndrome.
There are times it is relevant but I do not think getting your wisdom teeth pulled after finals counts as an occasion to tell the world.
It’s as if she can’t keep her mouth shut when she sees a medical professional. That maybe the doctor has some trick that will help with my situation.
The only thing that will help me is due time and some hard knocks. Like in the movie Batman Begins bruce’s father says, “ Why do we fall little bruce, and bruce replies, so we learn to pick ourselves up.”
I have spent nights crying over the fact that I am never going to be 100% normal. I have come to accept this, but I don’t want to be normal. I thought I did but what I really wanted was to be accepted by my peers. I have learned that Asperger’s Syndrome is only a diagnosis. It does not define every aspect of my humanity.
I also realized that in high school the only people who are accepted by there peers are popular.
The popular kids have reached their peak in life. When the popular kids graduate there is no where left for them to rise to.
Aspies on the other hand do not reach their true maturity level until they are Twenty Four. Even at that it does not mean when a child with Asperger’s reaches 24 he has peaked and has no further ways to progress.
When Theodore Geisel wrote his poem about graduation he was really writing about children with Asperger’s syndrome because you will go farther than all of your peers.
You have the ability to dream bigger dreams than most five year old’s imagination can handle. I have such dreams. I want to travel the world. I want to experience different cultures in person.
I want to have adventures that put Carmen Sandiego to shame. You may not have the same dream as me but you dreams are just as fantastic and valid. You should not cave under the ridicule your peers in school throw at you.
Please rise from. Let it only fuel the flame that resides within your heart. Let no one take away your beautiful dreams. For they were placed there for a reason.
My mother may be crazy and want to tell every medical professional she meets that I am different but she has always believed in me and my dreams. Parents of children with Asperger’s I hope that you can do the same.
Believe in your child even if there dreams seem impossible. Sometimes impossibility is not that impossible at all. It is only a perception.
Have faith in your children and get them the care they need. That way they can be productive members of society just like I have become. Always work with your child to become more social.
He will resist you at every turn but one day he will wake up and realize that my mother was right.
I did need that help with my social skills. It is a tough road raising a child with Asperger’s syndrome but the payoff is worth all the turmoil to get there.
Asperger’s Syndrome is Only a Diagnosis, Remember that.